She isn't well-liked in general, and it's already so hot and humid that everyone is just done with each other, for the day. In fact, it's been a really off week in general; it seems like there is always some minor spat that turns into a line of gossip, and I feel like our steady little familial infrastructure has collapsed completely.

But she's in the breezeway, crying, because she's frustrated with us, and she's still reeling from her recent breakup, on top of it...and you don't let people cry alone, because it isn't right.

"Come here."

And the person that no one really likes very much becomes very likable to me, suddenly, when she collapses into a hug like she's been waiting a while for it.

We are all just giant babies. Except those who really avoid touching (and I mean phobias and major anxiety issues), the instinct to need to be held, once we've passed a certain emotional line, is still alive and well. I forget that, sometimes. Even though my first reflex is to support and cuddle...well, reflexes are thoughtless, and I forget that people need that affirmation, the affection, the...simple presence of someone who wants you to feel better.

Her falling into that hug was a kick in the gut, because I forgot how much people need to be able to fall into hugs, every once in a while. If you have the physical and emotional ability, hug sad people. Hug happy people. Do not hug angry people.

This has been a public service announcement.

I love hugs. I love giving hugs.

I'm just weird about making that first move. I dunno. Maybe I'll get over it... eventually?
» invisible on 2014-03-19 12:15:56

I always feel super awkward about hugging people and receiving hugs. I recognize that it can be good to give them and all, but I'm horrible at it. >.>
» randomjunk on 2014-03-19 07:48:44

Thank you.
» randomjunk on 2014-03-24 12:09:44

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